unicorns exist. i have seen them.

Day Seven: Four things you want in a romantic partner.

my list of needs is long. i often find myself having to give up on one or two points, otherwise i would be alone forever. but i deserve a good guy, and being picky has served me well.

1. a ginormous brain.
i like a dude to be educated, smart, clever, and witty. these are four very different things. it's all very good to have an education and common sense, but they have to be swift problem solvers, those who can visualize and then do, as well as instinctively understanding the timing and workings of humor and subject matter to both make a point and get me to laugh. i should also throw nerdy into this category; it's nice if his smarts bend toward geeky sci-fi stuff.

2. a kind soul.
they must be compassionate, kind, giving, and honest. dudes that have pets are always a good sign of all of this. but yeah. i need them to be thoughtful of others (without compromising themselves, obviously) and be a reciprocating partner. i also can't abide those that operate with a high percentage of cynicism; a tiny bit is appreciated, but too much is distasteful. and, of course, honesty is one quality i do not give in on. and none of this honesty by way of withholding information shit either. that's just as bad as lying. and lying is the #1 sin in the book of amber.

(combining 1 & 2: i like a dude that is way smarter than me, but is nice enough never to make me feel stupid.)

3. a fierce heart.
he must have passion, drive, and loads of skill and creativity. there must be something in his life that he cares about deeply, and that moves him forward. side interests are good too, and the more passionate he is about them, the more i'm enchanted. as for the creativity bit...i mean to say, a thinking artist. i can't be with someone who isn't an artist in some way. it's sad, but it's my first and strongest point of connection. it also means that that person will understand and accept my lifestyle, which is key.

4. a beautiful smile.
it's a tired saying, but there are no truer words to me than, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder." i don't care what anyone says--ANYONE. they need be only beautiful to me. that's what's important. sometimes my tastes line up with the mainstream (grand), sometimes they don't (grander). i have no constant in what i find physically attractive; no set type. but i know what i like when i see it. i am drawn more to darker hair and eyes, although i have dated a few blondes and redheads. i like a balance between slim, fit, and broad parts; i have dated short boys and those much taller than myself. i am overly attentive to the arm/chest/hand area, and am partial to those with a face with a striking feature.

there are other things in there too. having a firm grasp on reality and mental health is pretty high priority (although, when working with nerds and artists, one must be slightly flexible on this). not being too socially awkward (some is okay, even endearing). having a healthy lifestyle. cooking skills. being financially responsible. leaning more toward introversion than extroversion. now we're getting into the nitty subcategories, and that can be as complicated as the paris catacombs.

anyhow. it sounds like a lot to ask for. but really? these people are out there and live this way effortlessly. and with some patience, i've met a good number of them and even loved a few. sometimes i've compromised on a point or two, or been mistaken about the honesty thing... but what matters most is that i know one of these people now. he has displayed all of this, and proved high and beyond that he is worthy of my attention. this may be gooey, new-girlfriend talk, and i apologize. but damn. damn damn damn. MINE. YOU CAN'T HAS!!!! *squish*

UPCOMING:
Day Eight: Three of your favourite possessions.
Day Nine: Two images that describe your life or yourself right now.
Day Ten: One confession